Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
I receive 1000s of emails from my fans seeking interracial dating advice for Asian men and the #1 question that gets asked is, “How do I know if she (often a white girl, although not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
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Since your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question since its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally planning to put it to bed for that first and before despite my misgivings.
I had been recently reminded of the controversial topic (and I’ll cover the reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men within the art of attraction after i sat next to a really pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer type of girl.
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In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard in the past and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from a woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes individuals and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and one in which I’ll go more into detail within my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
So now is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do to be able to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (although I use the term white female, the reality is other women from African American to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a lady is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
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Maybe you’ve seen this sort - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) while they really only know how to order pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because every woman wants to be cultured. You, being a cosmopolitan man of the world, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act serious and say something such as, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches during my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I say?”
And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I love your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in a learning experience.
Girls who have had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique then one they’ve never forgotten. Make sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
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Her closest friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even though they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've got some sort of Asian acceptance to make her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is when one girl’s delivery room doctor was obviously a Japanese guy, so since she was “born into the arms of an Asian man” she should “die inside the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was brought to the idea of dating Asian men by way of a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted out of this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently quite a famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions concerning the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the folks his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Some of the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the fighting techinques circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it is sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she's an Asian food “connoisseur.” If the comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that attracts all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of the steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your personal Korean BBQ, and the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, you ask? Because speaking of food like this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, right? It pertains to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows More About Your Mother Country Than You need to do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take this as generalizing, she’s just wanting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Start with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around in the sand kissing. Use her desire to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express fascination with anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my cup of tea, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s up to her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s trying to relate to you. The latter kind of woman desires to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s seeking you to a point in which you say something for the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you realize!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies - this kind of girl is infatuated with all the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and more attractive, as this is a comparatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. Or even Chinese for that matter. I’m not implying it won’t happen, but I can’t ever think of a time I was successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply just will not have anything just one BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it is your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm as much as hers, or if you feel more comfortable or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (in the event you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably use it again). Just as we had been little boys, perform melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments for example education or that familiarity with a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically produce a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they would be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, women have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to keep emotionally detached, but take into account that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is the biggest, most obvious indicator a woman can give you that she’s into Asian men in general and you in specific. Count on me, anytime a girl has ever explained she had an Asian boyfriend before, I will pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of that time period. So a white girl like this will say that she's dated an Asian man before. She'll make this point and also further - she's going to try to guess your ethnicity to demonstrate that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to make her seem more appealing and receptive in my experience. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your decision to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.
With, saying, or doing one among the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a few of those traits and even all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself conversing with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Remember fondly the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!
Why WAIT UNTIL NOW TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously which i was always reluctant to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give which says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
So why haven’t I answered it so far? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. The truth is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men overall to actually know the response to that question. I really believe that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is called “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, prior to the man does. Put simply, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.
As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the very last thing dating is, is risk-free.
This means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man ready to take risks (who'd then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead becomes the Asian beta male who's only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the original risk. Instead of the correct way around which is the man’s role to be dominant, forward, along with a leader.
I hope, however, I am not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to look, and ONLY look, of these specific female signals of attraction first before making a move… Instead of building a move first then making her interested in you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh your way into her heart (after which her pants)!
As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I'm a short 5 foot 5 inches and I know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. All women I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You should never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women has been documented and faithfully captured by the media around the world.
Instead, begin using these signals and indicators of interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming interested in you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You should take these 10 Signals She’s Attracted to Asian Men as signs for you to STAY when you’re already in the conversation with her instead of viewing them as indicators for you to initially approach her.
In the end, what I’ve discovered with women that specifically that like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll want to be there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not really a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference.
And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.
If you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - in the end, you’re here to learn get, and quitting the overall game early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you have yet to meet.
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